Friday 12 April 2013

Self-development: How Much Do You Want It?

Self development is the key the success, fulfilment and worth. 


As a person you are either developing yourself in a direction that is moving you forward or you are being stagnant and moving backwards, losing the muscle memory to the skill or talent to which you were potentially gifted. 










The question so often is how badly do you want it and what are you willing to sacrifice in order for you to get what you desire? Focus is extremely important as it is where your thinking and physical energy is being directed at any moment. To achieve goals and ambitions you will need a lot of it focused in that direction. In my own life I recently had to acknowledge that focus takes a lot of discipline and sacrifice as it is not giving into temporary pleasures that do not benefit you or reach you closer to your goal in the long run. This very hard and sometimes it hurts. Whether it be in weight-loss, exercise, education or self-development in any other form. Once you have an actual choice, it's hard to make the right one over the more self-indulgent one. The following video is helpful in illustrating this point as well as being very motivational.









I personally find that one way to keep your self on track regarding focus is to submerse yourself into the activity by visualising the expected outcome every morning, reading inspirational books and quotes regarding the subject matter and allowing your brain to be so filled of that thing that it is unconsciously thinking about the subject matter even when your brain in a relaxed state, coming up with further solutions or motivations on it's own. That helps you to move closer to your desired goal and the expected outcome of success.



This works well for me but of course it is good to get healthy breaks from any action that is your complete focus. You do not want stress to creep in and then for you to become unproductive. I find the best way to overcome this is to build in structured breaks around whatever you are doing. Something that completely takes you away from the task at hand, so away from your computer, the running machine, your books etc. Let it be something that you look forward to that helps you to relax and something that you can consider a treat. A word of warning though, is if you have just come from exercising the best "treat" might not be a tub of ice-cream, so still consider your overall life goals when choosing your treats. For me I much look forward to my green tea breaks which takes me away from my desk and allows me a "treat" which will enhance my mood and focus when I return to my desk again.


When you start to fulfil the goals you have set for yourself then you start to experience fulfilment in that area of your life. You will start to attract people into your life who are on a similar journey and who will appreciate the focus you have towards your goals as they have similar ones towards theirs. Someone who is working towards their goals becomes a very interesting person regardless of the actual goal, be it having an elaborate stamp collection or a becoming a stunt double. Working towards your passions speaks very loudly and is appreciated by the person you are in conversation with as people love to learn about new subjects from a passionate person. There are many people not living according to their passions, as they have accepted what life has given them as opposed to moulding life around their passions. So those who take a risk in life to follow their passions with action and heart, maybe criticised and frowned upon sometimes but in the end they can say that they lived, not just existed.






Please leave a comment telling me if you liked this article and if there are any other factors you feel contribute to success from your experience..... I would love to hear from you to be able to enhance myself as well as others who are reading this that are on this same journey. Thanks.

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