What Women Think They Want? Why Choosing A Man Is Like Buying A Pair Of Shoes...

What Women Think They Want In Order To Commit...

We think we want a man to treat us nicely

We don't want a man to be a pushover

We think we want a guy to be a friend in a relationship

We don't want to sleep with a friend

We want a guy to take care of us

We want to maintain our independence

Just some of the beautiful contradictions of being a woman.

Truth be told it's a bit like shopping we don't really know what we want, so we see a beautiful pair of shoes in the first shop we go to but we can't buy it until we are sure there is nothing out there that is better. So we tire ourselves out looking for the perfect match when when we will just go back and buy the first pair of shoes we saw. Just to prove it to ourselves that we got a good deal.

A guy can be sweet, sensitive, lovely, gentleman like and more... but we don't know if it is enough as we are also looking for passion, wild sex and drama.

And that's alot more to ask for than in a pair of shoes.

We secretly want the feeling of waiting forever for someone to text you, and we want to imagine that every text could be them. And when they don't, I secretly think we like to give them drunken calls and get angry at ourselves when they don't pick up the phone. I'm just saying. Guilty pleasures of at least feeling something.

If the guy phones back and confesses his love for us and asks us to be his forever. Sometimes we don't really want that. So we have returned full circle to the brush off. Saying he too nice, a pushover and we can walk all over him too easily. And we definitely don't want that.

I don't know if men need to fit our thin balancing tight rope of our expectations and sit on the shelf waiting for us to choose them or if we simply need to commit to the first pair of shoes that we love and be surprised how well it fits. Once we are sure of our purchase and they're ours for keeps, how we maintain shoe care is a completely different matter entirely.