Gossiping Media Outlets & Friendships

There is a rush that goes though you when you gossip like being at the top of a rollercoaster ride before you are about to come crashing down. As we were able to see with the Alton Tower crashes recently, there is often a thrill that accompanies the real risk of pain and regret. The risk is not only to yourself but to the people who got on the ride with you and who forceable have to stay there with you until the debris is cleared away. The damage can be irreversible.  

To trust knowledge will come to you if it is meant for your ears takes a lot of trust. To trust full stop is hard - it's like hanging off a ledge James Bond style and expecting the Bond girl to save you. To be fair she often does save him whilst wearing high heels of some sort. A kind of feminism? 

The point is not if you are a female version of James Bond, the point is do you believe in a being more powerful than yourself that has your back? If you do then trust that everything you need will come to you in the right time. No need for gossiping to gain knowledge. If not, then gossiping for gain will leave you stuck with the awful anxiety that you have all this information which you cannot share, unless you share just a little... then you get to the point where the guilt of being found out leads you to the pill box for your incessant headache, and then on top of that, being actually found out leads to the puffy eyes for days in which they have not engineered make-up that can do full coverage over the feelings of shame.

We, in our microwave culture, want to know everything now, whilst it's hot. Celebrities, provide a 'harmless' outlet for our need to gossip as we completely forget they are real people as we revel in their public torture. Actually, we are pretty sick, with 'TRL' and 'Perez Hilton' taking on the modern Gladiator arena where those who are famous have to fight for their honour of reputation regardless of the actual truth. 

Another thing with gossiping, after you peel back the layers of juicy flesh, is where do you find the seed of truth if it is all genetically modified to appeal to the masses? Believing a gossip is like believing that 70% of the news media in the UK is not owned by three powerful corporations, including a third of this percentage being controlled by Rupert Murdock, and hence believing the news is an actual source of truthful information instead of a constant stream of propaganda. If you'll believe that then you will believe anything!

We feel a persistent itch if we fail to glean the maximum amount of information in the shortest period of time. So, we want convenience over accurate sources. We want our biased friend to tell us everything we can condemn mutual friends, instead of actually holding our peace to consider the facts in an objective way, in a Judge Judy moment, in order to pass an intelligent and factual judgement instead.

I think humans deserve that in the very least. Celebrities deserve that respect also. I watched an interview by Monica Lewinsky on a Ted Talk as she talked about the price of shame as she was one of the first worldwide to be publicly cyber-bullied in the new viral power of the internet regarding her explosive affair with the most powerful man in the world, Bill Clinton.

No one is praising her conduct, although I think we forget that she was only 22 when it started and not a single one of us would like the media to delve into our early adulthood to find all of our wrongdoings and then metaphorical stone us to the point of attempted suicide or isolation. What she did wasn't right. Is what we do any better? We so conveniently forget, "He among you who is without sin, let him first cast a stone upon her." 

(Uncomfortable silence)

So, we metaphorically badger the gossiper by reading all the negative celebrity press on the Daily Mail website and stare at the television screen as dressed up reporters make gossiping respectable. It is so fulfilling all that juicy gossip, like a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, with the filling pouring our all over our stubby fingers. We were meant to be on a diet, so we hide the evidence by licking the last bits of tasty lack of self control from our fingers and promise not to do it again until we feel the urge of going in search for the same tempting, devilish consumption once more.

The worst part about gossip is you are not focusing on your own life and all of the practical, difficult steps and sacrifices you have to personally make to make your life better. You end up like a passive patient locked up in the mental institute of the world media as they offer you more and more addictive pharmaceuticals that are profitable to them, yet numbing to your growth and progress in life. We conveniently ignore the hurt those closest to us feel when blatantly breaking into their trust bank to steal their small fortune so you can go on a spending spree based upon your trusted relationship with them. It is painful to think about a friend who is close enough to hug you chooses to punch you instead.

It's about self-control. You cannot be a good friend until you learn some. Mid-gossip, as you are sharing the intimate secrets of another, a movie plays in the other person's mind which is a skull and bone image in a red triangle; the voice over declares, "Do not in any circumstance trust this person with any of your personal secrets as they will do to you, as they have done to the person in question and as they have done to many others." The friend after seeing this pop-up warning looks at you wearingly and as you are leaving them with a big, satisfied hug. If they are unwise and have said too much then they await the betrayed kiss of Judas from you. 

This person will never trust you with a secret again, unless they exhibit the same lack of self-control that you have and then, congratulations, you are a tormented friendship match-made in heaven. You know that your friend will eventually share all of your secrets the same way they have, with an inability to stop themselves blurting out hidden parts of another's person's soul. As you are telling them your most gut wrenching thoughts, you will then wish that you owned a muzzle, for your own mouth and maybe a takeaway boxed version for theirs.

Instead of, "Give what you would like to receive in return", the web of deceit for the gossip becomes more entangled as a person make pitfalls for themselves to feel further pain. To avoid heartache and shame I recommend being and choosing good sturdy friend who have a life of their own and hence don't have to dabble, like dark arts, into yours. Someone who can control their bladder (so you know that they are masters of self-control) and someone who doesn't like peanut butter sandwiches. 

Gossiping fulfils our primitive need of control and being in the know. With knowledge comes power, and with gossiping comes irresponsibly yielding this power like a sharp weapon to completely cut off someone's trust from the gossiping source. Like a forest fire, this friendship needs to be contained and put out to avoid further pain. That can be by no longer sharing your intimate secrets with such an uncontrolled person or being sure that this person has changed their ways for the better. 

References 

http://www.mediareform.org.uk/media-ownership-2/the-elephant-in-the-room

THE POWER IN PEACE by Sacha Wise

Why stay in someone else’s world of torture and pain, when you can have your own world of peace and serenity? This move is only a small step away in your mind. The dark places of someone’s thoughts can lead to a place where you are being drawn in to be bound as opposed to being set free. You have the option of accepting that invitation or kindly rejecting it for a better offer. Only accept an offer you envision will bring you joy and harmonious love. You create your own peace.

That is our power of being, which is our birthright. The power of choice. If you have many options before you then you are very powerful as you don’t have to compromise on your vision but you can choose the very best for your individualised state. Power is a state of mind where if you lack the connection to this birthright, then you have little choice of options and life just happens to you. There are always many options, the problem comes when you cannot see it and instead coming from a mindset of lack when you think there is not enough of what you want.

You can envision a life where there are traumas and strife or you can envision a life where there is peace and harmony among all you meet. Vision is powerful, otherwise you are blind. To be in constant communication with yourself about what you see is difficult, but yet so powerful. You gain more information about yourself and analyse your states of being, considering which states work for you and which parts of yourself need to be gone to gain peace. You become accomplished enough through insight to create your own peace, within you, not among other people’s opinions and their ever changing emotional states around you. To have vision and to choose wisely according to what you want to see, that is true power.

You can take responsibility over life or instead allow life to constantly happen to you. Life can leave you feeling very bruised or it can reward you with a crown after you prove yourself worthy of this testing challenge of simply being alive and present in each moment. It can leave you broken, or it can create opportunities to build others up. Whichever road of thought journey you choose to take is exactly where you will end up. Although, I sincerely hope you don’t get lost in your journey with impaired visuals and ending up crashing terribly with burn scars to remind you of your loss of control.

You don’t need to destroy to create. Sometimes, the necessity of destroying to begin a creation is a certainty. Other times, it is a complete waste of time and unnecessary heartache. Sometimes, you are so rigid in your thinking these drastic physical events have to occur around you to change the direction your old mindset was taking you to then bring you to a better place.Good judgement decides if you build or if you break. To carry a memory of a level of brokenness is beneficial to others, yet make it only a memory. It is much more rewarding living in wholeness and freedom than permanently in your messy memory closet.

Suitable options may come your way. They may make sense logically in your current thought process, yet, they are not the best option for achieving your optimal state as a human being on this earth. These suitable options, if we strip them down, are really compromises because you were too afraid to reach the heights of your level of understanding and push to become the very best you can be. They were the comfortable choices or the choices that were put on your plate. You were too impatient or blind to hold out for the dream that is not yet in sight but is surely coming. You can choose to build your foundations in life strongly upon solid ground or you can compromise with the first discounted deal you come across which crumbles under your feet at the first sign of trouble.

It can be right, but still wrong. The reason being is that there are levels of understanding. When you raise your understanding the whole game changes into a paradigm shift of new opportunity. You can meet ‘the one’ but you are in a place of so much fear and doubt that you lose what was meant for you. It just slips from your hand. It was meant for you but you were unprepared to enjoy such a perfect gift of sunshine filled day when inside you were such a storm attracting more lightening bolts. You let it pass. You heal. You learn. This time you decide to love yourself first which consequently opens you up to love someone else properly.

Love is a selfless act on both parts, although not loving yourself is a compromise. Some people are not their true selves in love, they become whatever someone else wants them to be and end up losing themselves completely. People may think they want to clone of themselves in a partner, but really, individuality is the spice of life. If someone senses your lack of power to create your own world in your life and they finally succeed in cloning you into an image of themselves, then robotic boredom kicks in. Passion involves a level of uncertainty and spontaneity of not knowing what can happen next with another being’s individual thoughts and desires.

Creation is difficult. That is why many choose to be part of someone else’s creation instead, it’s a lot easier, although you give up your power similar to the government putting up new corrupt laws for citizens to obey, based on what is most beneficial to those at the top with the most power (aka the choice to decide your future as well as theirs). In the beginning stages of your life, it may be comfortable to give away your personal power but it is not in your best interest to do so in the long term. How can you be sure the person holding the strings are not in it for their own reasons, instead of thinking what is most beneficial for you in your life? It takes an exceptionally selfless person to not think about their desires when they have the power to rule over you. The way to avoid this is to create yourself.

You can only visualise value if you consider yourself valuable. If you value yourself, then people treat you differently without even realising why. You are emitting an indescribable energy that shows where you stand in full acceptance of yourself. They won’t to be in your world if they cannot fit in with your rules as written out clearly on certain frequency levels you emit. You will repel what is unsuitable for you and attract all the blessings if your foundation is strongly built upon personal value.

You can envision all the elements of your future life with precise detail and create the sight in your mind’s eye of what you prefer to see and then choose accordingly. Or you can choose to sit on your bum and watch telly as the screen slowly corrupts your subconscious mind and numbs the end of your brain cells, completely obvious to the chaos and destruction caused in your midst. You are disengaged from critical thinking at that point, unless you are very smart and can surpass the brainwashing of the media into some depths of learning. You can learn from corruption to have insider knowledge and hence more power (aka choice) over your next options.

When someone attempt to come into your life, they can’t bring drama because you are not in that space and will no longer connect with such behaviour. Hence, you will walk away or they will - most likely you will. Applying this principle romantically, you’ll be left with a suitable partner that bring unspeakable joy alone into your being because that is what you are willing to accept. You’ll keep that one!

So, create your world with enough space to fit someone else in but don’t compromise by squeezing into someone else’s vision without bringing any of your dreams along to cushion the journey. If your dreams can’t fit into someone else’s life then neither can you! Losing your dreams means losing your purpose and the fragrant essence of who you are. Let the main things that matter most to you not be pushed aside and consider unimportant by someone around you who says that they love you. Love is not selfish.

Do you not know that your are fine dining gourmet food and an elite, rare jewel? You are worth the hefty price of true love and being made a fuss over. Don’t accept anything less. Everyone is trying to get a bargain in this world, make sure your value stays at full price. Don’t compromise that for anyone. Then, let the love negotiations be fair. Give and take. The world is held in a balance of gravity, how much more does our life need to be balanced perfectly in the same way. The balance starts in the mind and your thoughts, and radiates out like a sun ray of hope for the future.

There is no power struggles in real love. You both stand complete in your individual power and hence love each other as an equal. Be true to your dreaming.